Tuesday, June 24, 2014

flip-flops and bare feet

School is out and summertime has officially begun which means more time with family and friends, lazy days in the sun in our backyard, busy days, late nights, flip-flops, bare feet. Summer makes me happy.

Celebrating 59 years of marriage.

While the little one won't go in the pool with my dad yet, Kennadie loves her pool time with Papa. Little one has a hard time feeling comfortable with men and while we don't know the reason for this, we are working very hard with her on it and we hope that her fears will soon disappear. 

So far, Kennadie has adjusted pretty well to all of this change. We have noticed some jealousy coming out here and there, but we understand. She has been an only child for five years. Five years of us giving her all of our attention. Five years of having mom and dad all to herself.

The other night while she was taking a bath she said, "I don't really like having a sister."  

Here we go, I thought.

"Why don't you like having a sister? Can you explain to me how you are feeling?"

"Well, I don't have time for myself. I need space."

I get it. Lately she has even been sharing bath time with her sister. I told her how once things calm down a bit we will make sure we set aside time for her to have alone time, to have one-on-one time with Josh and I, and to having time with just the three of us. I will do the same for little one. I understand the importance of one-on-one time and alone time and I will do whatever it takes to make sure both of my kids get that.

We had some friends over for a cookout this past weekend and at one point little one walked off to play by herself and after a few minutes I noticed Kennadie over there with her playing peek-a-boo. These small moments happen every day- in the car Kennadie acts silly to get little one to laugh, she always has to be the one to open little one's door when we go in to get her after her nap, and Kennadie makes sure she is the one to get little one's blanket and teddy bear when she needs them.

It takes time to get comfortable with anything new and change and sharing attention, but I have no doubt in my mind she will continue to be a great big sister and helper.

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